thinking back on my 6 years with "my wife" (name concealed to protect the
innocent), it's evident that we were comfortable
with each other but not compatible....our differences were many.
you name it, from football (she NEVER pulled for the GA Bulldogs),
spiritual/social issues, and basically life in general. she's a HEADLINE NEW'S
women and i'm a FOX NEWS type of guy...."fair & balanced"?
with all these differences, it didn't help that i was 15 years her senior. we
did have far more good times than bad....we just never really "clicked".
we were too comfortable to make any drastic changes (counseling vs.
divorce) but by ignoring our differences.....crisis in our marriage became
even during the "good times", we were separated a lot due to my work....which
added to our demise; you can have a multitude of differences as long as you're around
each other long enough to "work things out".
so there we were, living together "comfortably" but not at all compatible and
by not doing anything about it, constant conflicts arose.....then crisis
by living in this
vicious cycle, my life started filling up with quiet desperation. i was
miserable....the U2's song entitled, "still haven't found what i'm looking for",
subconsciously became my theme song.
by the time we became uncomfortable enough to do something about it....IT was
too late but if you can have a "friendly divorce", we had one.
thinking back now.....the years we were together now seems like a vague dream
but i do have to admit, i miss talking with the friend that i grew comfortable
IT SURE IS LONELY GETTING WHAT YOU WANT!!
till next time,